{"id":479760,"date":"2021-10-21T08:45:18","date_gmt":"2021-10-21T06:45:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/?p=479760"},"modified":"2021-10-21T08:45:18","modified_gmt":"2021-10-21T06:45:18","slug":"perulem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/2021\/10\/21\/perulem\/","title":{"rendered":"P\u00ebrulem!","gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"text"}]},"content":{"rendered":"<p><em><strong><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-479761\" src=\"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/10\/erjonarusi.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"768\" height=\"608\" \/><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Nga Erjona Rusi<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>2 vjet m\u00eb par\u00eb, Ana (emri jo i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb) nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb vet\u00ebm 14 vje\u00e7e tentoi t\u00eb vras\u00eb veten sepse nuk mundi t\u00eb p\u00ebrballonte dot sharjet e ngacmimet e vazhdueshme t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb vet\u00ebm se \u00ebsht\u00eb e varf\u00ebr. N\u00ebna e saj (q\u00eb e njoh nga af\u00ebr) mezi ja del t&#8217;i ushqej\u00eb 2 f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, pas shum\u00eb problemesh (dhun\u00eb, divorc) e natyrisht nuk ja lejon dot vetes luksin t&#8217;i blej\u00eb vajz\u00ebs nj\u00eb celular ndryshe nga shum\u00eb prej moshatar\u00ebve t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n<p>Dhe imagjinoni qe pik\u00ebrisht ai celulari i r\u00ebndomt\u00eb i adoleshentes q\u00eb u b\u00eb shkaktari q\u00eb t\u00eb nisnin ngacmimet e shoqeve apo shok\u00ebve, p\u00ebr t\u00eb vijuar m\u00eb pas me talljet dhe sharjet e vazhdueshme se ajo vishet keq apo edhe kur ajo pranoi para klas\u00ebs s\u00eb prind\u00ebrit e saj jan\u00eb t\u00eb divorcuar.<\/p>\n<p>M&#8217;u desh p\u00ebrballja nga af\u00ebr q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoja jo vet\u00ebm traum\u00ebn e k\u00ebsaj familje por edhe 2 procese nj\u00ebkoh\u00ebsisht. U ktheva pas n\u00eb koh\u00eb e m&#8217;u kujtua koha jon\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb e fillimit t\u00eb gjimnazit (viti 97) ku plumbat v\u00ebrshonin n\u00eb aj\u00ebr e njer\u00ebzit vriteshin, e ku askush nuk e dinte \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb bullizmi. Por kjo nuk pengonte plot nga bashk\u00ebmoshatar\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrdornin gati p\u00ebrdit\u00eb fjal\u00ebt: Lop\u00eb, majmun, bullic\u00eb, jevg\u00eb, derdimen, qorr etj. p\u00ebr sa e sa prej nesh, pa m\u00eb p\u00ebrjashtuar dhe mua natyrisht.<\/p>\n<p>Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb pyeta veten n\u00ebse vajza ime kishte mund t\u00eb kishte b\u00ebr\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb me ndonj\u00eb shok apo shoqe, pa ditur q\u00eb po p\u00ebrjeton nj\u00eb divorc t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve, nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs a babait, v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi ekonomike apo \u00e7far\u00ebdolloj problemi tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb do ta b\u00ebnte at\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehej e \u201chelmuar\u201d qoft\u00eb edhe nga nj\u00eb fraz\u00eb e th\u00ebn\u00eb me shaka.<\/p>\n<p>Qe pik\u00ebrisht ai moment q\u00eb m\u00eb shkundi fort, e nisa t\u00eb flas shum\u00eb m\u00eb seriozisht me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb ndodhte me shoqet e shok\u00ebt e saj. Dhe m\u00eb pas nisi nj\u00eb diskutim i gjat\u00eb me miq e t\u00eb af\u00ebrm.<\/p>\n<p>Kur video e Lian\u00ebs u publikua, u ndjeva shum\u00eb fajtore p\u00ebrball\u00eb saj, prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb saj apo \u00e7do prindi tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ishte prekur. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb qindra mesazhe k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese, ofenduese, denigruese v\u00ebrshuan ndaj meje personalisht. E kuptova mllefin (megjith\u00ebse jo form\u00ebn e tij) dhe e pranova se ishte nj\u00eb gaf\u00eb dhe padyshim faj por kurr\u00ebsesi e q\u00ebllimshme p\u00ebr ta l\u00ebnduar at\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Por pas gjith\u00eb atij sulmi, pyes veten: A sh\u00ebrbeu p\u00ebr di\u00e7ka i gjith\u00eb ky lin\u00e7im publik? N\u00ebse shum\u00eb prej jush q\u00eb jeni prind\u00ebr, pas asaj videoje u ul\u00ebt me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt dhe ia treguat si nj\u00eb shembull t\u00eb keq p\u00ebr t&#8217;i th\u00ebn\u00eb se edhe nj\u00eb shaka mund t&#8217;i b\u00ebj\u00eb shok\u00ebt e tyre t\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb l\u00ebnduar, e jo m\u00eb sharjet e ofendimet, un\u00eb m\u00eb e para, p\u00ebrulem para jush.<\/p>\n<p>Sepse do t\u00eb ndjehem disi e ngush\u00eblluar e do ta g\u00eblltisja gjith\u00eb helmin q\u00eb p\u00ebrjetova k\u00ebto dit\u00eb prej kujtdo, madje edhe t\u00eb atyre q\u00eb s\u2019kan\u00eb asnj\u00eb angazhim tjet\u00ebr n\u00eb jet\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se t\u00eb hapin Instagramin apo Facebookun p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebshtyr\u00eb (virtualisht) ndaj jet\u00ebs e mundit t\u00eb dikujt tjet\u00ebr. Do ta g\u00eblltis pa b\u00ebr\u00eb as edhe nj\u00eb pik\u00eb z\u00eb n\u00ebse \u201cky helm\u201d do t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar nj\u00eb tjet\u00ebr vajz\u00eb apo djal\u00eb, q\u00eb si Ana mund t\u00eb ndjehen tani t\u00eb humbur e t\u00eb pashpres\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Apo n\u00ebse do t\u00eb sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb nxitur nj\u00eb debat t\u00eb madh mbi pyetjen n\u00ebse ne jemi nj\u00eb shoq\u00ebri e dhunshme dhe bullizuese n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi dhe \u00e7far\u00eb pasojash sjell. E madje jam gati t\u00eb ofroj \u00e7do hap\u00ebsir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta b\u00ebr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb, t\u00eb vihem p\u00ebrball\u00eb \u00e7dokujt q\u00eb do t\u00eb debatoj\u00eb me racionalitet e logjik\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme.<\/p>\n<p>Por n\u00ebse v\u00ebrshuat me aq furi thjesht e vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar se sa \u201ct\u00eb ndyr\u00eb\u201d u treguam ne me at\u00eb vajz\u00eb, m\u00eb vjen keq por nuk keni b\u00ebr\u00eb asgj\u00eb, as p\u00ebr Lian\u00ebn, as p\u00ebr veten e as p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj. Thjesht shtuat doz\u00ebn e helmit q\u00eb i l\u00ebshojm\u00eb p\u00ebrdit\u00eb nj\u00ebri tjetrit duke u b\u00ebr\u00eb nj\u00ebsor \u201cpis e llum\u201d si ne.<\/p>\n<p>Gjith\u00ebsesi, pavar\u00ebsisht helmit, un\u00eb s\u2019kam nd\u00ebrmend t\u00eb ndalem. Do vazhdoj t\u00eb flas apo b\u00ebrtas sa her\u00eb t\u00eb ket\u00eb dhun\u00eb, padrejt\u00ebsi, vrasje si\u00e7 kam b\u00ebr\u00eb n\u00eb gjith\u00eb k\u00ebto vite, por me maturin\u00eb e nj\u00eb njeriu q\u00eb s\u2019duhet tja lejoj\u00eb vetes t\u00eb gaboj\u00eb s\u00ebrish para nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije. Dhe do ta b\u00ebj k\u00ebt\u00eb sepse nuk mund t\u00eb lejoj ask\u00ebnd t\u00eb ma helmoj\u00eb shpirtin p\u00ebrgjithnj\u00eb.<\/p>\n<p>Sepse nuk do pranoj kurr\u00eb t\u00eb dor\u00ebzohem para lin\u00e7imit apo gjuetis\u00eb s\u00eb shtrigave, ngaq\u00eb beteja ime, do kisha dashur shum\u00eb t\u00eb ishte edhe e juaja, \u00ebsht\u00eb kund\u00ebr fenomenit, e jo individ\u00ebve, kushdo qofshin ata.<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Nga Erjona Rusi 2 vjet m\u00eb par\u00eb, Ana (emri jo i v\u00ebrtet\u00eb) nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb vet\u00ebm 14 vje\u00e7e tentoi t\u00eb vras\u00eb veten sepse nuk mundi t\u00eb p\u00ebrballonte dot sharjet e ngacmimet e vazhdueshme t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb vet\u00ebm se \u00ebsht\u00eb e varf\u00ebr. N\u00ebna e saj (q\u00eb e njoh nga af\u00ebr) mezi ja del t&#8217;i ushqej\u00eb 2 f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, pas [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"author":51,"featured_media":479761,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-479760","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-editorial"],"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"link","format":"url"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/479760","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/51"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=479760"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/479760\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/479761"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=479760"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=479760"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=479760"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}