{"id":455818,"date":"2021-06-10T12:19:58","date_gmt":"2021-06-10T10:19:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hashtag.al\/?p=455818"},"modified":"2021-06-10T12:19:58","modified_gmt":"2021-06-10T10:19:58","slug":"ushqyerja-me-gji-dhe-vrasja-e-nenes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/2021\/06\/10\/ushqyerja-me-gji-dhe-vrasja-e-nenes\/","title":{"rendered":"Ushqyerja me gji dhe \u201cvrasja\u201d e N\u00ebn\u00ebs","gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"text"}]},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Nga Edmond Arizaj<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

N\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri, si p\u00ebrher\u00eb, debati do t\u00eb nis\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, por disa shk\u00ebndija jan\u00eb dukur. A duhet apo jo t\u00eb ushqesh f\u00ebmij\u00ebn me gji n\u00eb publik? N\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb \u00e7mendurisht t\u00eb dirigjuar nga vithet e gjoksi lakuriq, t\u00eb diskutosh nj\u00eb prej mrekullive t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, edhe me rregullat e kompanive t\u00eb rrjeteve sociale, mua m\u00eb duket marr\u00ebzi. Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb e shohin gjirin q\u00eb ushqen foshnj\u00ebn si objekt seksual. Edhe? Ata lloj, si objekt nd\u00ebrzimi do t\u00eb shohin edhe nj\u00eb manekin q\u00eb sh\u00ebmb\u00ebllen nj\u00eb grua. Ata duhen edukuar t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbahen arsyes p\u00ebrkund\u00ebr instiktit, jo t\u00eb ndalohen n\u00ebnat.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb ndihen keq kur shohin nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb duke ushqyer diku n\u00eb park. Edhe? N\u00ebse nuk ndihen keq kur shohin dik\u00eb q\u00eb i pikon sandui\u00e7i ke\u00e7ap n\u00eb bluz\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrplas buz\u00ebt duke u p\u00ebrtypur, por mrrolen me gjirin ushqyes, at\u00ebher\u00eb le t\u00eb pirdhen. Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb ndihen t\u00eb fyer nga veprimi i ushyerjes sepse p\u00ebrngjasohet me kafsh\u00ebt. Edhe? Cila \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb fakt natyra njer\u00ebzore, humane, q\u00eb u tradh\u00ebtoka n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast?! Njer\u00ebzit sillen, e th\u00ebrrasin apo krahasojn\u00eb nj\u00ebri-tjetrin me \u00e7do kafsh\u00eb t\u00eb mundshme: gjarp\u00ebr, nep\u00ebrk\u00eb, qen, luan, dhi, balen\u00eb, lop\u00eb, mi, mace, grer\u00ebz…<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebr mua, ushqyerja me gji e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs KUDO ku at\u00eb e merr uria, \u00ebsht\u00eb pika m\u00eb e lart\u00eb e lidhjes mes n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. Dhe mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb i jepet dikujt, apo disave t\u00eb jen\u00eb prezent n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ngjarje q\u00eb nuk vjen nga sht\u00ebpia e tyre, duhet par\u00eb si nj\u00eb mrekulli e vog\u00ebl q\u00eb t\u00eb rastis. Nuk ke pse proteston. Buz\u00ebqesh se ashtu je ushqyer dhe ti, s\u2019ka r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi ku ke qar\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb park, apo n\u00eb katuan e lop\u00ebs. N\u00ebse bezdisesh, ku di un\u00eb p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb ndonj\u00eb besimi, kthe kok\u00ebn n\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, Zoti do t\u00eb t\u00eb fal\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sepse n\u00eb at\u00eb moment nuk po rritet ve\u00e7 nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, por edhe nj\u00eb N\u00ebn\u00eb. Fjal\u00ebn q\u00eb po k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ta heqin n\u00eb disa vende, me arsyetimin e zhdukjes s\u00eb pabarazis\u00eb gjinore nga pun\u00ebdh\u00ebn\u00ebsit. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb termit \u201cN\u00ebn\u00eb\u201d propozohet \u201cprind q\u00eb ka lindur\u201d. K\u00ebrkesat e grupimit LGBTQI avancojn\u00eb edhe drejt termit \u201cbaba\u201d, p\u00ebrdorimit t\u00eb tualeteve, veshjeve, etj. Jam i sigurt q\u00eb k\u00ebrkesat e tyre nuk do t\u00eb ndalen k\u00ebtu. E, do t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb madje.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ata jan\u00eb nj\u00eb realitet i organizuar, i fuqish\u00ebm, me superlobingje e mb\u00ebshtetje t\u00eb pakrahasueshme me ask\u00ebnd. Un\u00eb personalisht nuk e shoh m\u00eb si grupim q\u00eb k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb drejta, por si struktur\u00eb politike-ekonomike-fitimprur\u00ebse. \u00c7far\u00eb ka kjo t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me fjal\u00ebn \u201cN\u00ebn\u00eb\u201d? Po n\u00ebse tradicionales i heqim N\u00ebn\u00ebn, duke e kthyer n\u00eb nj\u00eb surrugato q\u00eb vet\u00ebm lind, duke i mohuar, rritjen, edukimin, sakrificat, dashurin\u00eb, p\u00ebrk\u00ebdheljet etj, e k\u00ebshtu vazhdohet me t\u00eb tjera \u201cmbetje tradicionale\u201d, at\u00ebher\u00eb rruga e tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb krejt e hapur p\u00ebr \u00e7do mbizot\u00ebrim. N\u00eb vet\u00ebm pak dhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7ar\u00eb. Jan\u00eb grupimi q\u00eb kan\u00eb marr\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb \u201ckon\u00e7ensione\u201d nga shoq\u00ebria dhe shtetet n\u00eb pak koh\u00eb. Jan\u00eb n\u00eb ekspansion. Qofsha i gabuar.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Nga Edmond Arizaj N\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri, si p\u00ebrher\u00eb, debati do t\u00eb nis\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb, por disa shk\u00ebndija jan\u00eb dukur. A duhet apo jo t\u00eb ushqesh f\u00ebmij\u00ebn me gji n\u00eb publik? N\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb \u00e7mendurisht t\u00eb dirigjuar nga vithet e gjoksi lakuriq, t\u00eb diskutosh nj\u00eb prej mrekullive t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, edhe me rregullat e kompanive t\u00eb rrjeteve sociale, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"author":30,"featured_media":421748,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[23],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-455818","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-editorial"],"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"link","format":"url"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/455818","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=455818"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/455818\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/421748"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=455818"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=455818"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=455818"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}