{"id":327303,"date":"2019-10-12T11:23:11","date_gmt":"2019-10-12T09:23:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hashtag.al\/?p=327303"},"modified":"2019-10-12T11:28:43","modified_gmt":"2019-10-12T09:28:43","slug":"cfare-i-ben-njerezit-karizmatike-si-mund-te-jesh-dhe-ti-i-tille","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/2019\/10\/12\/cfare-i-ben-njerezit-karizmatike-si-mund-te-jesh-dhe-ti-i-tille\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7far\u00eb i b\u00ebn njer\u00ebzit karizmatik\u00eb, si mund t\u00eb jesh dhe ti i till\u00eb","gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"text"}]},"content":{"rendered":"

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K\u00ebrkojuni njer\u00ebzve t\u2019ju p\u00ebrmendin dik\u00eb sharmant dhe p\u00ebrgjigjet jan\u00eb shpesh t\u00eb parashikueshme.<\/span><\/p>\n

Disa do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendin James Bond. Shum\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendin Oprah \u00cbinfrey, Bill Klinton ose nj\u00eb figur\u00eb historike, si Martin Luther King Jr. ose Mahatma Gandhi.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tani k\u00ebrkojuni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebve njer\u00ebz t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb, n\u00eb vet\u00ebm disa sekonda, se \u00e7far\u00eb i b\u00ebn k\u00ebta persona kaq t\u00eb p\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instiktivisht ne e dim\u00eb se t\u00ebrhiqemi nga disa njer\u00ebz t\u00eb caktuar m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. Cil\u00ebsimi se pse na p\u00eblqejn\u00eb ata m\u00eb shum\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb ushtrim krejt\u00ebsisht i ndrysh\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Grek\u00ebt e lasht\u00eb e p\u00ebrshkruanin karizm\u00ebn si nj\u00eb “dhurat\u00eb nga Per\u00ebndia”, nj\u00eb tipar i dh\u00ebn\u00eb nga Zoti q\u00eb vjen natyrsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr disa, por jo p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. E v\u00ebrteta \u00ebsht\u00eb se karizma \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb sjellje e m\u00ebsuar, nj\u00eb aft\u00ebsi p\u00ebr t\u2019u zhvilluar n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn m\u00ebnyr\u00eb si\u00e7 m\u00ebsuam t\u00eb ecim apo flasim.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tipare t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb d\u00ebshirueshme, si pasuria ose pamja, padyshim jan\u00eb t\u00eb lidhura me p\u00eblqimin, por t\u00eb lindurit pa asnj\u00ebr\u00ebn nga k\u00ebto nuk ju pengon t\u00eb jeni karizmatik\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebrcaktimi i karizm\u00ebs<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebr p\u00ebrcaktimin e karizm\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb studiuar nga ekspert\u00eb n\u00eb epoka t\u00eb ndryshme, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb k\u00ebtu edhe Platonin. Sidoqoft\u00eb, ekzistojn\u00eb dy t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta t\u00eb padiskutueshme.<\/span><\/p>\n

E para<\/strong> \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne t\u00ebrhiqemi pothuajse mbinaturisht nga disa njer\u00ebz, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb na p\u00eblqejn\u00eb. Megjith\u00ebse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb k\u00ebshtu; ne mund t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqemi kollaj edhe nga nj\u00eb batak\u00e7i karizmatik.<\/span><\/p>\n

E v\u00ebrteta e dyt\u00eb<\/strong> \u00ebsht\u00eb se ne jemi t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm kur vendosim gishtin mbi at\u00eb se \u00e7far\u00eb i b\u00ebn k\u00ebta njer\u00ebz kaq t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs.<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebrtej v\u00ebzhgimeve t\u00eb nivelit sip\u00ebrfaq\u00ebsor – nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje e bukur, ose aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb treguar nj\u00eb histori t\u00eb mir\u00eb – disa prej nesh mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb, n\u00eb \u00e7ast, at\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn njer\u00ebzit karizmatik\u00eb kaq magnetik\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ndoshta \u00ebsht\u00eb evolucionare. Si specie, instiktet na \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb shpesh i p\u00ebrshkruajm\u00eb si ndjesi t\u00eb zorr\u00ebve ose flutura n\u00eb stomak.<\/span><\/p>\n

K\u00ebto ndjenja jan\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb nj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje e n\u00ebnnd\u00ebrgjegjeshme ndaj dhjet\u00ebra, ose ndoshta qindra, shenjave verbale dhe joverbale, t\u00eb cilat ne pa vet\u00ebdije i p\u00ebrpunojm\u00eb n\u00eb \u00e7do nd\u00ebrveprim me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb aft\u00ebsi e nevojshme, q\u00eb i lejon t\u00eb gjith\u00eb gjitar\u00ebve t\u00eb vler\u00ebsojn\u00eb q\u00ebllimin e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve duke marr\u00eb nj\u00eb inventar t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra, si gjuha e trupit, ritmi i t\u00eb folurit dhe l\u00ebvizjet delikate q\u00eb mund t\u00eb aludojn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim.<\/span><\/p>\n

John Antonakis, profesor i sjelljes organizative n\u00eb Universitetin e Lozan\u00ebs n\u00eb Zvic\u00ebr, v\u00ebren se karizma, n\u00eb thelb \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht sinjalizim informacioni.<\/span><\/p>\n

“N\u00eb thelb, karizma ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me sinjalizimin e informacionit n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb simbolike, emocionale dhe t\u00eb bazuar n\u00eb vlera,” thot\u00eb ai.<\/span><\/p>\n

“K\u00ebshtu, sinjalizimi i karizm\u00ebs ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me p\u00ebrdorimin e teknikave verbale – ato q\u00eb thua ti – dhe teknikave joverbale.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Tre shtyllat e karizm\u00ebs, si t\u00eb praktikojm\u00eb secil\u00ebn prej tyre<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Olivia Fox Cabane, nj\u00eb trajnere e karizm\u00ebs dhe autore e librit “Miti i Karizm\u00ebs”, thot\u00eb se mund t\u00eb p\u00ebrziejm\u00eb sjellje karizmatike deri n\u00eb tre shtylla.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shtylla e par\u00eb, prania.<\/strong>\u00a0 P\u00ebrfshin t\u00eb jetosh momentin. Kur e shihni se po ju ik\u00ebn v\u00ebmendja nd\u00ebrsa flisni me dik\u00eb, p\u00ebrqendrohuni te vetja juaj. Kushtojini v\u00ebmendje tingujve n\u00eb mjedis, frym\u00ebs tuaj dhe ndjesive delikate n\u00eb trupin tuaj.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fuqia \u00ebsht\u00eb shtylla e dyt\u00eb,<\/strong> ajo p\u00ebrfshin shkat\u00ebrrimin e barrierave t\u00eb vet\u00eb-imponuara n\u00eb vend t\u00eb arritjes s\u00eb nj\u00eb statusi m\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb. B\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr heqjen e stigm\u00ebs q\u00eb vjen me suksesin q\u00eb keni fituar tashm\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sindroma Impostor, si\u00e7 dihet, \u00ebsht\u00eb frika e p\u00ebrhapur q\u00eb nuk jeni i denj\u00eb p\u00ebr pozicionin n\u00eb t\u00eb cilin jeni. Sa m\u00eb e lart\u00eb t\u00eb shkoni n\u00eb shkall\u00ebt, aq m\u00eb e p\u00ebrhapur b\u00ebhet ndjenja.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c7el\u00ebsi i k\u00ebsaj shtylle \u00ebsht\u00eb heqja e vet\u00eb-dyshimit, duke siguruar veten se aft\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe pasionet tuaja jan\u00eb t\u00eb vlefshme dhe interesante p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. M\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb thuhet se sa t\u00eb b\u00ebhet.<\/span><\/p>\n

Shtylla e tret\u00eb, ngroht\u00ebsia,<\/strong> \u00ebsht\u00eb pak m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u shtirur. Kjo k\u00ebrkon q\u00eb ju t\u00eb rrezatoni nj\u00eb lloj energjie t\u00eb caktuar q\u00eb sinjalizon mir\u00ebsi dhe pranim. \u00cbsht\u00eb e nd\u00ebrlikuar, duke marr\u00eb parasysh se ata q\u00eb shk\u00eblqejn\u00eb k\u00ebtu jan\u00eb njer\u00ebz q\u00eb e k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb tek t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, edhe kur sapo jan\u00eb takuar.<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebr t\u00eb zot\u00ebruar k\u00ebt\u00eb shtyll\u00eb, zonja Cabane sugjeron t\u00eb imagjinoni nj\u00eb person p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilin ndjeni p\u00ebrzem\u00ebrsi t\u00eb madhe, dhe m\u00eb pas t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendroheni n\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb ju p\u00eblqen m\u00eb shum\u00eb te bashk\u00ebveprimet tuaja t\u00eb p\u00ebrbashk\u00ebta. Kjo sipas saj, mund t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb kimin\u00eb e trupit brenda sekondave, duke e b\u00ebr\u00eb madje edhe m\u00eb introvertin midis nesh t\u00eb \u00e7liroj\u00eb llojin e ngroht\u00ebsis\u00eb q\u00eb karakterizon njer\u00ebzit me shum\u00eb kariz\u00ebm.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trajnimi i karizm\u00ebs<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb karizmatik\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb dhom\u00eb, jan\u00eb ata q\u00eb flasin n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb metaforike, ata q\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin anekdota dhe krahasime. Ata jan\u00eb ekspert\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrdorimin e bindjes morale dhe reflektimit t\u00eb ndjenjave n\u00eb grup, si dhe t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb pyetje, madje edhe ato retorike duke i mbajtur njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb angazhuar. Me pak fjal\u00eb, ata thjesht tregojn\u00eb nj\u00eb histori t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Njer\u00ebzit m\u00eb karizmatik\u00eb jan\u00eb shpesh fol\u00ebsit publik m\u00eb efektiv\u00eb.<\/span><\/p>\n

Megjithat\u00eb karizma shkon p\u00ebrtej t\u00eb qenit nj\u00eb fol\u00ebs i rafinuar dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs. Njer\u00ebzit karizmatik\u00eb p\u00eblqehen jo vet\u00ebm sepse mund t\u00eb tregojn\u00eb nj\u00eb histori t\u00eb mir\u00eb, por edhe p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs sesi i b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt t\u00eb ndjehen.<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebrve\u00e7 t\u00eb qenit me humor dhe t\u00ebrheq\u00ebs, njer\u00ebzit karizmatik\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb bllokojn\u00eb shp\u00ebrqendrimet, duke i b\u00ebr\u00eb ata q\u00eb bashk\u00ebveprojn\u00eb me ta t\u00eb ndihen sikur koha t\u00eb kishte ndalur dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u00ebnyra m\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb qen\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb dilni dhe t\u00eb praktikoheni.<\/span><\/p>\n

Filloni n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, duke hequr vet\u00eb-dyshimin tuaj dhe duke u p\u00ebrq\u00ebndruar n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb jeni pjes\u00ebmarr\u00ebs aktiv n\u00eb biseda me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt.<\/span><\/p>\n

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K\u00ebrkojuni njer\u00ebzve t\u2019ju p\u00ebrmendin dik\u00eb sharmant dhe p\u00ebrgjigjet jan\u00eb shpesh t\u00eb parashikueshme. Disa do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendin James Bond. Shum\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendin Oprah \u00cbinfrey, Bill Klinton ose nj\u00eb figur\u00eb historike, si Martin Luther King Jr. ose Mahatma Gandhi. Tani k\u00ebrkojuni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebve njer\u00ebz t\u00eb p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb, n\u00eb vet\u00ebm disa sekonda, se \u00e7far\u00eb i b\u00ebn […]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"author":30,"featured_media":327304,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[53],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-327303","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-fast-foodi"],"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"link","format":"url"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/327303","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=327303"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/327303\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/327304"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=327303"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=327303"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=327303"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}