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Nga Aneta Mihali Xhiku<\/strong><\/p>\n Pas 20 vjet emigrimi, di\u00e7 kam m\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr dhimbjet e shpirtit nga vetmia dhe \u00e7rr\u00ebnjosja. Shqiptar\u00ebt \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb Amerik\u00ebn, pa ditur \u00e7mimin emocional, sh\u00ebndetsor, familjar, profesional e shoq\u00ebror q\u00eb duhet paguar p\u00ebr komoditetin ekonomik.<\/p>\n N\u00eb 4-5 vjet, pjesa d\u00ebrrmuese e emigrant\u00ebve shqiptar\u00eb blejn\u00eb sht\u00ebpi e makina, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00ebsojn\u00eb n\u00eb shkolla t\u00eb mira ku ambicja e trash\u00ebguar nga prind\u00ebt, dal\u00eb nga nj\u00eb vend pa mund\u00ebsi, i nxjerr n\u00eb krye t\u00eb klas\u00ebs. N\u00ebse ke qen\u00eb profesionist n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri, synon t\u00eb arrish t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn n\u00eb po at\u00eb nivel, por kjo k\u00ebrkon p\u00ebrpjekje titanike q\u00eb shpejt kthehen n\u00eb stres.<\/p>\n Mund\u00ebsite t\u00eb joshin t\u00eb punosh m\u00eb shum\u00eb, hyn n\u00eb borxh q\u00eb t\u00eb blesh me t\u00eb mir\u00ebn, por e mira s\u2019ka fund, dhe njeriu e gjen veten n\u00eb qerthull ku harron t\u00eb ushqej\u00eb shpirtin e vet. Ardhur nga nj\u00eb vend ku si terapist sh\u00ebrben komshija, kush\u00ebriri, shoqja e pun\u00ebs apo e shkoll\u00ebs, emigranti shqiptar ndodhet n\u00eb boshll\u00ebk – nuk gjen njeri t\u00eb zbrazet, nuk gjen njeri ta mbush\u00eb. Dhimbjet e shpirtit kthehen n\u00eb s\u00ebmundje, stresi paralizon muskujt, shkat\u00ebrron trupin, fillojn\u00eb ila\u00e7et q\u00eb ndreqin nj\u00eb gj\u00eb e prishin dy, por ti vazhdon t\u00eb vraposh, derisa ngec e jeta merr tat\u00ebpjet\u00eb…<\/p>\n Familjen e kisha aty me rr\u00ebnj\u00eb e deg\u00eb, por m\u00eb mungonte shoq\u00ebria, gjuha e folur n\u00eb rrug\u00eb, peisazhi. N\u00ebnvet\u00ebdija kish shtres\u00ebzuar nevoj\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb par\u00eb malet, kodrat, lumin, por mungesa fatale qe Deti. Ju ka ndodhur q\u00eb, nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb ca vjet, t\u00eb shihni t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn \u00ebnd\u00ebrr makthi? Imja qe kjo: shkoja n\u00eb Sarand\u00eb p\u00ebr dy jav\u00eb, me qejfin q\u00eb \u201cdo k\u00ebnaqem n\u00eb det!\u201d Por vinte dita e fundit dhe s\u2019kisha mundur t\u00eb kridhesha as edhe nj\u00eb her\u00eb n\u00eb uj\u00eb. Nga ballkoni i motr\u00ebs sime shihja nj\u00eb cop\u00ebz blu, bluu, bluuu\u2026 \u201cObobo, nes\u00ebr do iki!\u201d Zgjohesha e tronditur, me faqe t\u00eb lagura \u2013 kisha qar\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb.<\/p>\n Mendjen e kisha t\u00eb mbledhur, ndoshta, ndoshta kthehesha n\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri pas pensionit. F\u00ebmij\u00ebt kishin dal\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00eb, qe koha ta merrnim shtruar e t\u00eb g\u00ebzonim t\u00eb mirat e pun\u00ebs n\u00eb at\u00eb vend t\u00eb begat\u00eb, por njeriu kurr\u00eb nuk e di si i vijn\u00eb kart\u00ebrat n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Vendimin p\u00ebr t\u2019u kthyer e mori im shoq. Erdha k\u00ebmb\u00ebzvarr\u00eb e me kok\u00ebn pas, por u befasova nga energjia, mund\u00ebsit\u00eb e shumta p\u00ebr biznes, ngroht\u00ebsia e njer\u00ebzve k\u00ebtu. \u201cErdhe, mir\u00ebseerdhe, sa do rrish?\u201d \u201cP\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb!\u201d N\u00eb fytyr\u00eb shfaqet mosbesimi, pastaj k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia \u201ckjo q\u00eb rri, di\u00e7ka di.\u201d Pasi kalon entuziazmi i par\u00eb, z\u00ebn\u00eb e fusin hund\u00ebt n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e tua, nisin ankesat pafund\u2026 ti bie n\u00eb tok\u00eb e z\u00eb t\u00eb ndjesh d\u00ebshp\u00ebrimin e thell\u00eb t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb shqiptare. \u201cKa marr\u00eb fund, nuk ka m\u00eb shpres\u00eb k\u00ebtu\u201d \u2013 \u00ebsht\u00eb refreni q\u00eb d\u00ebgjoj p\u00ebrdit\u00eb.<\/p>\n N\u00eb qytetin tim ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonshme, por t\u00eb papun\u00ebt nuk i shohin \u2013 rrin\u00eb n\u00eb kafene dhe p\u00ebrs\u00ebrisin: \u201cky vend nuk b\u00ebhet!\u201d S\u2019i pengon askush t\u00eb pastrojn\u00eb rrugic\u00ebn para sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, t\u00eb mbjellin lule e pem\u00eb midis pallateve, t\u00eb lyejn\u00eb murin a shkall\u00ebt, t\u00eb punojn\u00eb apartamentet bosh t\u00eb komshinjve q\u00eb kan\u00eb ikur, t\u00eb lidhen me fshatar\u00ebt p\u00ebr t\u00eb sjell\u00eb prodhimet e tyre n\u00eb qytet, t\u00eb organizojn\u00eb nj\u00eb kor apo nj\u00eb eskursion me f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e m\u00ebhall\u00ebs, t\u00eb ndihmojn\u00eb dik\u00eb n\u00eb hall, por jo – jan\u00eb tep\u00ebr t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb me telenovelat, fejsbukun, filxhanin e kafes\u00eb n\u00ebn sht\u00ebllungat e duhanit… N\u00eb Sarand\u00eb vijn\u00eb t\u00eb huaj me trumba, shesin sht\u00ebpit\u00eb n\u00eb vendet e tyre dhe bum! blejn\u00eb apartamente e hapin biznese – kurse ne e kemi mendjen t\u00eb ikim, t\u00eb ikim nj\u00eb or\u00eb e m\u00eb par\u00eb! N\u00eb arrati shk\u00ebrmoqim familjen, l\u00ebm\u00eb pas prind\u00ebr q\u00eb plaken t\u00eb vetmuar, f\u00ebmij\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ndjejn\u00eb p\u00ebrk\u00ebdheljen e gjysh\u00ebrve, \u00ebnd\u00ebrra profesionale t\u00eb paarrira, e p\u00eblhura e shpirtit dob\u00ebsohet fill pas filli\u2026<\/p>\n Nga nj\u00eb studim mbi faktor\u00ebt q\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojn\u00eb jet\u00ebgjat\u00ebsin\u00eb e njeriut, del se nj\u00ebshi \u00ebsht\u00eb komuniteti, jeta e rrug\u00ebs; 2. familja dhe miqt\u00eb e ngusht\u00eb 7. duhani. Emigranti ka 7 her\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb gjasa t\u00eb vdes\u00eb nga vetmia, se sa nga pirja e duhanit. Keni d\u00ebgjuar ndonj\u00eb fushat\u00eb kunder emigracionit? Shihni filmin dokumentar \u201cBabushkat e \u00c7ernobilit\u201d (https:\/\/thebabushkasofchernobyl.com\/) \u2013 pas katastrof\u00ebs nukleare n\u00eb \u00c7ernobil, banor\u00ebt u shp\u00ebrngul\u00ebn p\u00ebrfare n\u00eb Mosk\u00eb. Zona u rrethua me tela, por disa t\u00eb moshuar u kthyen fshehurazi n\u00eb sht\u00ebpit\u00eb e tyre, ku zun\u00eb t\u00eb jetonin me prodhimet e tok\u00ebs q\u00eb mbartte vdekjen. Doli fjala e u nis nj\u00eb ekip (me kok\u00eb ne trast\u00eb) q\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebzhgonte se si ishte e mundur jeta n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend t\u00eb till\u00eb. Studimi konkludoi se vdekshm\u00ebria e t\u00eb moshuarve t\u00eb shp\u00ebrngulur n\u00eb Mosk\u00eb ishte 10 her\u00eb m\u00eb e madhe se vdekshm\u00ebria e babushkave t\u00eb kthyera n\u00eb zon\u00ebn e vdekjes. Pun\u00ebt e shpirtit\u2026.<\/p>\n Pas 20 muajsh k\u00ebtu, jam e vet\u00ebdijshme p\u00ebr plag\u00ebt e thella t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb shqiptare, e kuptoj sa e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb rris\u00ebsh f\u00ebmij\u00eb e t\u00eb ngresh profesion n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend ku qeveria punon vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr xhepin e vet, duke shkat\u00ebrruar mund\u00ebsit\u00eb p\u00ebr njeriun q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb e qejf t\u00eb punoj\u00eb. Por bota ka ndryshuar: n\u00eb per\u00ebndim emigrantet nuk i pret m\u00eb njeri krah\u00ebhapur, vet\u00eb per\u00ebndimoret nuk po gjejn\u00eb rehat (miqt\u00eb e mi t\u00eb rinj\u00a0Shawn Simons\u00a0and\u00a0Kyle Drevlo\u00a0shit\u00ebn gjithshka kishin n\u00eb Kaliforni dhe po nd\u00ebrtojn\u00eb nj\u00eb ferm\u00eb n\u00eb Finiq; t\u00eb shtun\u00ebn pres\u00a0Lucy Ivanoff\u00a0q\u00eb mb\u00ebrrin n\u00eb port vet\u00ebm me dy valixhe pasi shiti apartamentin n\u00eb Washington D.C.;\u00a0Natasha Wolf<\/a>\u00a0po i lan duart nga sht\u00ebpia n\u00eb Long Island, nd\u00ebrkaq q\u00eb n\u00eb mars e pret foleja e re n\u00eb m\u00ebhall\u00ebn time.) Kemi fatin e madh t\u00eb jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend me klim\u00eb, pasuri, ushqim, histori, inteligjenc\u00eb emocionale etj. q\u00eb i b\u00ebn t\u00eb huajt t\u00eb mos mendohen dy her\u00eb e t\u00eb ngulen k\u00ebtu.<\/p>\n Shqip\u00ebria ka ecur p\u00ebrpara n\u00eb disa drejtime, mbrapsht n\u00eb disa t\u00eb tjera, por teknologjia dhe media sociale na kan\u00eb hequr \u00e7do justifikim p\u00ebr t\u00eb humbur koh\u00eb. N\u00ebse b\u00ebjm\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb mundemi vet\u00eb, gjejm\u00eb e vler\u00ebsojm\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb zot\u00ebt mes nesh dhe i nxjerrim n\u00eb krye, mb\u00ebshtesim kurajon qytetare p\u00ebr t\u2019u k\u00ebrkuar llogari atyre q\u00eb na udh\u00ebheqim, ndjej q\u00eb shpresat jan\u00eb reale. Dit\u00ebt i harxhoj me njer\u00ebz q\u00eb thon\u00eb \u201ck\u00ebtu mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb di\u00e7ka\u201d dhe, si dikush q\u00eb i ka jetuar t\u00eb dy realitetet, u them: \u201caty isha e k\u00ebnaqur, k\u00ebtu jam e lumtur.\u201d Vini re:\u00a0Ky blog publik \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00eb n\u00eb profilin e “Facebook”-ut t\u00eb autores.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Nga Aneta Mihali Xhiku Pas 20 vjet emigrimi, di\u00e7 kam m\u00ebsuar p\u00ebr dhimbjet e shpirtit nga vetmia dhe \u00e7rr\u00ebnjosja. Shqiptar\u00ebt \u00ebnd\u00ebrrojn\u00eb Amerik\u00ebn, pa ditur \u00e7mimin emocional, sh\u00ebndetsor, familjar, profesional e shoq\u00ebror q\u00eb duhet paguar p\u00ebr komoditetin ekonomik. N\u00eb 4-5 vjet, pjesa d\u00ebrrmuese e emigrant\u00ebve shqiptar\u00eb blejn\u00eb sht\u00ebpi e makina, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00ebsojn\u00eb n\u00eb shkolla t\u00eb mira […]<\/p>\n","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"author":30,"featured_media":270397,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,13],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-270395","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","category-te-fundit"],"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"link","format":"url"}],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/270395","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/30"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=270395"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/270395\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/270397"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=270395"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=270395"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hashtag.al\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=270395"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\np.s. (Njoh shum\u00eb emigrant\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ndajn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin mendim me mua dhe jan\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur n\u00eb emigrim, por kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb shkruar p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb ndjehen si un\u00eb.)<\/p>\n